Am I Good Enough?

Sydney Rodriguez, Author

Have you ever asked yourself, “Am I good enough?”. If you do its ok, I am pretty sure you are not the only one. Everyone asks the same questions, “Am I good enough?”, “Do people think that I am weird?” or “Does anybody like me?”. Many people ask themselves these questions because they are concerned about how others see them. We just want to be liked and approved of but the truth is that these questions can hurt your self esteem. We often feel like we are doing or saying the wrong things and that others will not like us because of it.

The truth is, we are often much harder on ourselves than other people are. Just because you make a mistake doesn’t mean people will not like you. Even if someone doesn’t like you, it’s not the end of the world.  Don’t bring yourself down if someone does not like you. Be yourself. Thats the best thing you can do! I think we should ask ourselves, “Should I just be myself instead of trying to be perfect?”.

There is no such thing as being “perfect” and if it was a thing, our life would be so boring. Everyone would be the same! I think it’s great to be imperfect. You are able to make mistakes and learn from them. Even when you get hurt, you get stronger from those accidents and that builds up the person you are today! The most important part is that everyone is different. Everyone is unique in their own way. So, instead of trying to be “perfect”, try embracing your imperfections! Imperfection is beauty so be YOU.

After all, many of the most amazing people who ever existed were people who weren’t like everybody else. For example, Oprah Winfrey. When Oprah was young, she had low self-esteem. She tried to use attention from other people to make herself feel valued and happy. She has said, “We’re social animals. We want to be liked and approved of. The question is to what extent we will go to get that, and to what extent we need it.” As she got older, she realized she did not need the attention of others to be happy, she needed to love herself.

Self-love is very important. It is important because you allow yourself to let go of trying to do what other people expect you to do instead of following your heart. Also, when you have a high self-esteem, you are more likely to do things that make you happy. I get it. For many people it is hard to regain their love for themselves. But there are ways to regain that love.

First off, know that you can rebuild yourself. Stop worrying about what other people think and trust yourself! Accept your mistakes. You are not the only one that has flaws. Also, try your best. Do not give up and keep working hard to get to your goals. Most importantly, Instead of trying to impress others follow your heart and do what is right. Lastly, know that regaining self-love is a process. You just got to be patient with it.

Now, I want you to go to a mirror and once you are looking at yourself through the mirror instead of asking, “Am I good enough?”, just tell yourself with confidence, “This is me, I am beautiful, I love the person I am today and nobody can change that for me.” I guess I would say that my lesson here today is to love yourself. To accept who you are and work hard to build the person you will become in the future.

Remember, know your worth.